Saturday, February 13, 2010

"Love" post #2

In my last post I shared thoughts on what love really is. True love. Now I have been thinking about different ways we express love or use the word to explain an interest or like in something. I don't think that using the word for such things is bad, really. I think it's just good to know the difference between what love really is and where it comes from, and lust, selfishness, etc. So when I say I LOVE ASPARAGUS... obviously I don't care for asparagus as I do say, my sister. ha! I think the word probably does get thrown around too much, but what bothers me is when people use it when they are really expressing something that they FEEL, as we see demonstrated in most of our entertainment these days. There was more on that in the last post.
Does any of that make sense? I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject.

And please, don't think I'm not a romancy (I just made it a word) sort of person. Ooooh, I am. I just don't want to get lost in the middle of love and lust. I know that what the world thinks of as love is usually not real and doesn't deserve the word.

Here are some odd facts, trivia, and quotes on "love" and such...

Women can talk longer with less effort than can men. That has been proved repeatedly. Why? Because the vocal cords of women are shorter than those of men and so release less air through them to carry the sound. It's all a matter of breathing. 

A team of medical experts in Virginia contends you're more likely to catch the common cold virus by shaking hands than by kissing.

The average woman uses up approximately her height in lipstick every five years.

Scholars recently returned from New Guinea said they noted a lot of elderly natives there had missing fingers. Research revealed that it was the custom some years ago for a young fighting man to give his lucky girlfriend a finger cut from the hand of an opponent. And said girlfriend wore that finger on a string around her neck.

One hundred years ago, a woman thought herself to be particularly gifted if she were one of those who grew a faint moustache. That light down on the female face was considered most attractive then.

It's commonly believed a man picks out a wife who reminds him of his mother while a woman picks out a husband who reminds her of her father. But that's not right. Recent research indicates both the man and the woman are most influenced in their selection of matrimonial mates by their mothers. If a woman regards her mother as stern, she's likely to go for a stern husband. If she thinks of her mother as gentle, she looks for a gentle husband. The father of the bride or groom just doesn't have all that much to do with it, poor fellow.

It's reported that more than 10,000 marriages a year now are directly traceable to romances which begin during coffee breaks.  

King Ferrand of Portugal was held captive from 1213 to 1226 by the Turks. They demanded ransom, but Portugal's Queen Jeanne refused to pay for her husband's return. She had beaten him in a chess game, and he had therefore hit her on the nose with his fist. It upset her considerably. (Perhaps this is why many women don't play chess, and why we need to deal with pent-up anger before the game begins.)

The longest kiss listed in the Guinness Book of World Records lasted an incredible 417 hours. 

* 2 out of 5 have married their first love.

* Only 4% asked the parents' approval for their bride's hand.

* 1 in 5 men proposed on his knees.

* 6% propose over the phone. (And what percent said yes?) 

Florida law forbids a housewife there to break more than three dishes a day. 

In men the hypothalamus (small organ near the brain stem) is larger than in most women. When provoked, the hypothalamus heightens rage, thirst, hunger and desire; possibly explaining boys' more rambunctious behavior. 

Psychological studies show conclusively that, while emergencies tend to upset a woman more, in a real crisis she is likely to remain calmer than the average male. 

What does "getting a Valentine" mean in criminal jargon? Receiving a one-year jail sentence. 

Well, that was enlightening. Ha!

I just have to say that I love Valentines day. My parents have always made it a special, fun holiday and I have no bitterness towards the day. And it kind of bugs me when people do. Seriously? Stop being selfish and go love someone. 

Happy Valentines Day!


"True love begins when nothing is looked for in return."
--Antoine De Saint-Exupery


  1. :) Fun stuff. I love your blog, Jami!

  2. I mean... I love it more than asparagus and not as much as my sister. haha. Oh my.

  3. I would have to say that love is something extreme. There are guys at work who say they love football, and it's true. They obsess with the scores, the stats, the players, the trades. During off season they're miserable, and pounce on any scrap of information during said time like starved animals. They put money into it so they can as least see each game their favorite teams play in; some pay so they can see or record every game, which means a time commitment as well. Some would say this is not "true love", and it isn't. But it's the greatest example of love in their lives.

    Something that others might describe as "true love" would be that between spouses (or couples, in this culture), where one shows love and devotion to the other and such affection is returned.

    But, as is the stuff of legend, "true love" is timeless, best proved by Jesus. He committed himself to loving us, and it took him from being naked and human in a stable to being dead on a cross; yet it smashed through all the bondage and strongholds of sin and made knights in shining armor seem like toy soldiers in comparison.

    "True Love" means to sell out to God. We fall from it, yes; but when there, all is right, because we're with Him. Whether being blessed by a comfortable life in America and trying to win people for Christ, or shivering and half-dead in a cell in another country, both who are sold out to Him know that this world is only temporary.

    True Love means people will experience pain, sometimes great pain. It's not fun, but you will either experience pain as a result of your relationship with your true love (God), or you will be betrayed in some way by another.

    That's why people use the term "love" so loosely. Because they love loosely. Most Americans, especially, dabble in things that bring a little pleasure and (hopefully) no pain.

    ...I guess this comment is long enough. I was thinking a lot about this topic because of today and also since we watched "The Princess Bride" as a family yesterday.

  4. and to add to your statistics...60% of newlyweds divorce. (so not making that up, wish i was. read it in an article in the kc star.)